Hey joe, im typing on my phone right now so this is going to be shorter than id want....

For the lift you're on a good track. You can get the additional strut spacer from JBA.
Front = OME HD springs, OME struts + JBA spacer

For the rear id recommend getting the JBA 4" coil springs. No reason to get the OME springs and try to stack away. I'll be honest im not 100% sure how much lift you'll get from them, but id still get the monroe load leveling shocks, pn 58643, and go from there.

Whats your budget for wheels and what style are you interested in? We'll help you pick out a nice set.

For bumpers, thesteelarmadillo.com is where you want to be. Jon is building my rear bumper now (I hope lol)

I have links on here that shows how to do the pinch weld mod, installing the monroe shocks, etc. Id post them but im on my phone. The first post in my garage thread has all of the links though.

Welcome aboard man. Looking forward to helping you build an awesome Commander!!